Aug 052012

My personal experience is that masculinity and femininity complement each other very nicely. I become exceptionally moody and morose without the company of women. In a mixed gathering, I prefer to be in the kitchen, behaving myself like a mouse in the corner, than with the men watching sports in the family room. And, I know that I really like being married and having a feminine woman as my best friend.

Further, while lurking near widows and divorced women, I have heard them confess that they “simply like having a man around.” It sounded as if, like me, the simple presence of someone of the other gender satisfied a palpably felt deficit.

The feminist Gloria Steinem famously asserted that, “A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle.” OMG! Didn’t Dr. Seuss put a fish riding a bicycle in his “One Fish, Two Fish, Red Fish, Blue Fish?” What a rascal he was! I’ve gotta look for that.


The way some men treat the women in their lives, one could believe that the women would truly be better off without them. In any event, there is often clearly room left for improvement in many relationships. My wife, Dianna, liked the sentiment of the poster, below, and brought it to my attention.

The text reads: “We need to teach our DAUGHTERS the difference between a man who FLATTERS her and a man who COMPLIMENTS her. a man who SPENDS MONEY on her and a man who INVESTS in her. A man who views her as PROPERTY and a man who views her PROPERLY. a man who LUSTS after her and a man who LOVES her. A man who believes HE is GOD’s GIFT to women and a man who remembers a WOMAN was GOD’s GIFT to MAN and then teach OUR SONS to be that kind of man.”

Let me add the observation that the sentiment still tilts toward a sexist, patriarchal view of gender relations. I think that women are capable of being even more self-sufficient emotionally and physically. While I deeply treasure the satisfying bonds between men and women, I am sympathetic toward those with a radically-independent spirit.


In fact, the entire range of “conservative” thought tilts toward a sexist, patriarchal view of gender relations. Another way of saying this is George Lakoff’s observation that conservatives tend to have a “strong father” view of how families and governments should be run. Conservatives tend to look for, follow, and be loyal to their chosen authorities. It is very clear that “He’s the boss” or that the man of the house or the conservatively-elected president is “the decider.” On the other hand, the “liberal” tilt endorses a nurturing father, rather than a strict authoritarian.

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Feb 262012

Don’t you just love those social surveys that tell you that the animal you’re most like is a ferret? Or, how about the one that asks things such as your favorite color, sports team, shirt size, and zodiac sign so that they can tell which clothing retailer’s advertisements to send you.

I usually don’t fall for this foolishness. But this was a Facebook friend asking stuff. It was, in fact, my first-born son asking stuff. He wasn’t asking me; I was just lurking. He should have know better. He was obviously just making trouble. I’ll show him trouble.

So, he asks: “Philosophical question for the artistic types… If you had to choose between doing a decent job with something completely new, innovative, and groundbreaking, or an excellent job at something tried-and-true, which would you pick?”

So, being a considerate and accommodating daddy, I gave a philosophical answer:

David Satterlee

      • My only experience is with really putting my foot in it, completely new or tried-and-true. I think I would just stick with my talent. There’s just something warm and comfortable about about a good, well-worn rut. Then again, at my age, I’m more likely to break wind than break new ground. Then again again, breaking wind is tried-and-true and I do such an excellent job of it. Yeah, I pick that one. I pick my nose too, and do an excellent job of that. I don’t pick up my socks so much, but if I wear them all week, I can just throw them in the wash with everything else. That’s when I get out a completely new sock and really put my foot in it. What was the question?

Oops, now I’ve gone and posted it again. Boy, do I really know how to put my foot in it.

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Jun 112011

I wrote this poem in 2004 for a grandchild. You know who you are. And, you’re still welcome to visit at every opportunity!

Friends, please help me to share this video.

Agents and publishers, this needs to be a picture book.

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Dec 262010

Climbing the Spiral

By David Satterlee

The way I am is better than how I have ever been.
I really am more satisfied with now than some past when.
I’m smarter than I used to be; as smart as I know how.
I don’t think one should need to be beyond where I am now.

But if once I have moved beyond the history of my past,
My progress to my here and now just might not be my last.
As I have struggled to transcend the problems I have met,
I must admit I should expect to meet more problems yet.

Although my errors led me to the way that I should go,
I don’t suppose “the hard way” is the only way to know.
Perhaps a search outside myself will shed a better light.
Have others come before me? Could they lead me out of night?

I should have the guessed; the path I tread has been traversed before,
By some who mastered lessons I’d be foolish to ignore.
If I care to examine all the best that they can tell,
I needn’t struggle near as hard in order to do well.

Copyright 2010 David Satterlee

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Sep 292010

From: Greater Good Science Center

New video: When Dacher Keltner talks about compassion in action, it comes down to one word: TOUCH.

Many of us live in a touch-deprived culture. But in this video Keltner explains how touch is essential to communicating compassion and is a basic form of preventive medicine.

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Oct 272009 reports on a Wall Street Journal report research by German biologist Anna Katharina Braun and others.

"Braun focuses on degus, small rodents tied to guinea pigs and chinchillas. The mother and father raise the degus in nature.

The Journal’s money quote:

When deprived of their father, the degu pups exhibit both short- and long-term changes in nerve-cell growth in different regions of the brain. Dr. Braun, director of the Institute of Biology at Otto von Guericke University in Magdeburg, and her colleagues are also looking at how these physical changes affect offspring behavior.

Bottom line: Degu pups without fathers are more aggressive and impulsive than others with two parents."

Source: Freebase

Source: Freebase