Sep 282010
 

The One That Got Away

by David Satterlee

A Fergus Johnson story of gender relations

[Note: Contains mildly erotic descriptive imagery.]

Fergus Johnson has been watching for several minutes now. Fergus is seventeen. That’s one of the truly awkward ages between toddling and toupees. One of the girls is gorgeous. It’s not entirely the close-fitting but not-quite-tight pure-white dress she’s wearing, with long sleeves, a tailored waist, and a hem four inches above her knees. The dress accents her sleek neck and trim, but neatly muscled legs, which seem to go all the way to the floor. Okay, Fergus has actually been staring for several minutes now while she talks and eats an ice cream cone.

The white dress has a scooped neck, which reveals a flawless expanse of chest, heaving gently as she talks. A slender silver necklace suspends a large teardrop crystal in just the right place to catch and direct one’s eyes. Her chest extends in a continuous outward slope to two perfect scoops of breast. She is just barely (so to speak) avoiding being immodest but still showing enough cleavage that Fergus feels compelled to check to see if his mouth needs closing. The entire effect is absolutely stunning and most any boy would find himself immobilized, like a deer transfixed by her headlights. The girl doesn’t seem to be aware of the chaos she is creating outside her circle of power.

The girl in the white dress is standing, talking in a small group with three other girls. This is a difficult, but not unusual, situation; girls tend to keep company in huddles. One friend is mousy but staring with adoration at the shining star who is holding court; another is listening, but seems to be frowning at the floor; and one is alertly watching the crowd with darting eyes. Fergus wants to approach the girl who has caught his eye and say something coherent without tripping on his shadow. He knows that he’s a decent enough fellow, quick, trim, and tanned from frequent tennis play; he’s occasionally been called handsome. Sometimes girls come over and start conversations with him. This time, it looks like it has fallen to him to take the initiative.

Gathering his courage, Fergus deliberately unclenches his jaw and rehearses a small smile, one with his cheeks pulled up only slightly and his lips parted only slightly. Just as he’s approaching his object of attraction, the gorgeous girl takes another lick of her ice cream, the scoop tilts, and starts to fall.

FIRST ENDING

Fergus, his nerves drawn tight, reacts instantly, his trained reflexes move faster than he can think. His arm stretches his hand out, firmly grasping the escaping orb. Chocolate extrudes from between his fingers. Fergus and the gorgeous girl gaze into each other’s eyes. They glance at the ooze in Fergus’ hand. Their eyes meet again. Fergus turns sadly and wanders off to find a washroom.

ALTERNATE ENDING

Fergus does not notice the accident because his eyes are fixed on the girl who is quiet, thoughtful, and alert. Her nose is a little too round and her eyes are a little too far apart, but he does not notice. She turns slightly to face him, comfortable and friendly, the fire of quick wit dancing in her eyes. With gentle assurance, he offers his hand to her. Her arm stretches her hand out, firmly grasping his. Fergus and the quiet girl gaze into each other’s eyes. Together they smile and wander off to find a place to talk.

As stories go, this one is classically semi-autobiographical. The model for the “gorgeous girl” is a magazine advertisement that happens to be lying nearby just now. I was, in fact, once walking past a girl when she dropped her ice creme scoop, which I reflexively caught. On the other hand, I preferred to court a girl with “the fire of quick wit dancing in her eyes.” To all those wonderful women who are especially endowed with alternate charms of the mind and heart, I dedicate this alternate ending. 

Copyright 2010, David Satterlee

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Nov 302009
 

Source: Integral Institute – Scholars

Joanne Hunt, MA, MCC, is the Co-Founder of Integral Coaching Canada Inc. (Ottawa, Canada), the coaching partner of the Integral Institute and Integral Life. She is a Master Certified Coach with the International Coach Federation and has a Masters Degree in Management Studies. She co-developed the highly respected application of Integral Theory in the field of professional coaching. She is a Senior Teacher who trains, certifies and licenses Integral Coaching® professionals.

Source: Integral+Life

image Joanne is the Vice President of Integral Coaching and Development for Integral Life and the Co-Founder of Integral Coaching Canada.  She is a lead instructor for Integral Coaching Canada’s advanced programs, and students describe her as an expert coach, a playful human being and a passionate, skilled teacher. Rooted in her own commitment to living with personal integrity and authenticity, Joanne brings this dedication to how she teaches, how she guides faculty and how she coaches clients. Joanne brings fifteen years of direct experience in corporate leadership positions to her work with clients, and she is is known for her clear, direct and skillful attention to what people truly need as they build the competencies necessary to more fully manifest their lives.

Working for fifteen years in senior leadership positions in three multi-national corporations, it was Joanne’s exceptional ability to get to the ‘heart of the matter’ that enabled her to powerfully influence and lead change initiatives that ranged in scale from small groups to large-scale corporate programs. Not only able to envision and create, Joanne also has a unique capacity to cultivate deep commitment across diverse groups with ‘competing’ values and perspectives such that phenomenal results are attained. Coaching skills were always a part of her skill set as a corporate leader and Joanne produced significant results in improving business & individual effectiveness, leadership & change management implementation, strategic planning, and organizational restructuring while also nurturing the development of her teams.

Joanne holds a Masters Degree in Management Studies specializing in research and human resource development. Over the last two decades she has studied extensively with a variety of training institutes in fields such as coaching, systemic change, leadership development, and adult human development. Joanne has been working in the coaching profession for almost ten years and within this discipline has achieved the highest designation of Master Certified Coach by the International Coach Federation (ICF) while developing and co-founding the School of Integral Coaching® with her partner, Laura. She completed the Integral Institute’s inaugural offering of Integral Life Practice in 2004, attended the Integral Leadership Seminar in 2006 and is a long-time student of Integral Theory. Joanne is the Vice President of Integral Coaching and Development for Integral Life.

Joanne’s work also includes being a ‘Researcher & Writer’ for Integral Coaching Canada Inc. This role enables Joanne to pursue two passions that fuel her coaching work: R & D (especially on all things AQAL) and writing (articles, songs, poetry, Integral Coaching® material). These domains continue to support Integral Coaching Canada’s new curriculum designs, resource development and methodological advances which bring clarity and ongoing design innovation to the delivery and leading edge nature of the Integral Coaching® training programs.

Joanne is a lead instructor for Integral Coaching Canada’s advanced programs and students describe her as an expert coach, a playful human being and a passionate, skilled teacher. Rooted in her own commitment to living with personal integrity and authenticity, Joanne brings this dedication to how she teaches, how she guides faculty and how she coaches clients. Joanne is known for her clear, direct and skillful attention to what people truly need as they build the competencies necessary to more fully manifest their lives.

Deeply exploring various modalities for approaching change, Joanne also works with professional coaches to further enable the integration of their development through writing and meditative practice. Approaching writing from an AQAL perspective continues to support her development and the growth of those who work with her; she has a balanced set of Integral Life Practices that have supported her for many years. Last of all, Joanne has a unique and piercing way of bringing Integral Theory and practice to what’s real, what’s necessary and what’s relevant in the practical and messy day-to-day-ness of the fully-lived life of a coach or client.

See also: Integral Coaching Canada

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